October 25, 2011

Strategic Planning

At the end of October, 2009, I spent the weekend in Columbus, Ohio, at the 63rd annual reunion of the Men of Easy Company. We held a book signing at a nearby Barnes & Noble, then enjoyed a banquet back at the hotel.

On the morning I was set to leave, I was down in the hotel atrium waiting for the shuttle bus to take me back to the airport. It was about 6 a.m., and one of the original E Co men, Paul “Hayseed” Rogers, then age 91, was already up and getting his exercise, walking laps in the lobby.

Paul approached me, and we shook hands to say goodbye. We spoke for a few minutes and he said, “You know, Marcus, this will be about the last of these reunions I ever attend. Maybe I’ve got one more in me, but probably by next year I’ll be gone.”

I was silent, not knowing how to answer. Then I asked the only thing I could think, “Are you ready, Paul? Are you ready to go?”

He thought for a moment, smiled, and said, “Yeah, I’ve had a good life. I have wonderful friends. I’m ready.”

The shuttle bus was leaving. It was time for me to go to the airport. That’s the last thing that was said between us.

As of this writing, Paul Rogers has bested his prediction. He’s still alive and smiling. Still, that question remains—for Paul, for me, for all of us. The question looms like a visit from the goon squad. We all need to face death sometime, somewhere, as best we know how.

My wife needed surgery this past summer. It wasn’t life-threatening, and she’s healed now. But we used that experience as a catalyst to get our house in order, so to speak. We redid our wills and updated our life insurance, all those practical death-oriented things you never want to take care of because it feels too morbid. Although once you do, you’re relieved. You feel like a responsible grownup. Certainly that’s part of how people answer the readiness question.

But, sure, the question involves more. Death doesn’t care how people classify themselves—spiritual, atheist, agnostic. Like a thief in a home invasion, death kicks through the front door and whacks us across the face. Surely the prospect of eternal existence lies at the core of this question. If God is real, are we ready to face him? Some spin the wheel and hope for the best. Others hold to nothingness—that it’s just a vast blackness of oblivion on the other side.

Jim 'Moe' Alley (1922-2008) with Shifty Powers (1921-2009), at the Emmy's, 2002

Sergeant Jim “Moe” Alley, another man from Easy Company, died in March, 2008, and I was honored to attend his funeral.

I guess Moe had always been a tough nut to crack when it came to thinking about death and the spiritual side of life. At the funeral, the minister told a story of how he’d visited Moe plenty of times, even when Moe was really sick toward the end. Continually, the minister asked Moe if he was ready to go, but Moe always indicated he was fighting God, not willing to give an inch.

Then one day, for reasons unexplained, Moe suddenly decided his fighting days were through. That day when the minister visited and asked Moe if he was ready to do business with God, Moe said yes. So Moe and God did business. Then, just a day or so after that, Moe died. There wasn’t any doubt, said the minister, that Moe was now at peace in the presence of God.

Are you ready?

How have you answered that question? Have you wrestled with it yet and found your peace?


6 comments:

Tobias (GER) said...

Hello Marcus,
for a 27 y.o. guy like me this question is hard to answer. But I would say I'm far from ready to go. I'm short before becoming a dad, so life just started for me when you see it that way. I think the only time when you find your peace is, when you have ended your life already in your head. Like when you have experiences everything you wanted and had a good life like Paul. Still living but ready to go. I don't see this point coming for me in the next 40 years. At least that's what I hope for.
But when time is near I will make peace with the Lord for sure.

Very nice story again M! Like I said last blog entry, I'm pretty amazed about your gift of realizing those things during your day and converting them to thsi fine blog.
T

Marcus said...

Thanks for your continued good input Tobias, and for wrestling each week with the ideas in this blog's content.

best to you,
--MB

Hazel Jones said...

Tobias, you may be young, but you are a thoughtful young man. Have you considered that the problem with waiting is that there are no guarantees? We're all just a heart-beat from eternity. Consider that it may be better to make your peace with God early rather than later, so you can relax in in throughout life.

Rod86 said...

I'm not religious at all, but I like this article for 2 reasons.

1. It's a reminder that life is short. Either get busy living or get busy dying. Carpe Dieum.

2. I agree with what you said. Death happens to everybody. so no matter what they believe, you have to deal with it.

Tobias (GER) said...

Hazel,
thanks for your kind words.
And you are right, sadly there is no gaurantee at all. But maybe you got me wrong, I don't fight with god. For me making peace with god means not that I'm ready to go, but more that I still live because of his will. So as long as I'm alive and my family is in good health, I am in peace with him. I would start to fight with him when he is taking the most valueable things away from me. When there is not really a clear reason for me to see why he do it.
I really try to relax to enjoy every minute of life, because like you said, we are just one heartbeat from eternity. But realxing in this kind of world we have today isn't really easy at all. If you look in the news, it is all about money, even war is about it. So money rules the world. If you would like to give your children a nice home, good education you need to have money. The only thing you can experience without money is joy, but it is hard to realize it between all this fast living and thinking about your job/work, your home, your retirement arrangements, your insurances, bills and so on.
But sorry I make a digression.

Marcus, the thanks goes to you that every wednesday I'm very eager to read your new blog entry.

T

Anonymous said...

MB,
Great story with so much meaning. As time goes by the oppertunities to spend time with these most common men that together did extrodinary things is coming an end. I to have had the great honor to spend time with some of them. We can treasure that time and admire the fight that is the life they are now living.
TL