Comments on Men Who Lead Well: When You're Torn Between Work and Home

that's the kind of blog I was looking for! Tha...

2011-11-07T04:25:53.411-08:00

that's the kind of blog I was looking for! Thank you Marcus! And thank you Kaylee!

Thank you for saying that, Marcus. I was feeling ...

2011-11-04T09:30:29.912-07:00

Thank you for saying that, Marcus. I was feeling guilty for causing extraneous discussion on your blog by not being more careful before posting...

No problem at all, Tobi. This is a big discussion ...

2011-11-04T08:54:07.766-07:00

No problem at all, Tobi. This is a big discussion in my family room where we're all hanging out together. Talk as much as you'd like. :)

Tobias: You were clear, I was just rushing. The m...

2011-11-04T06:57:48.228-07:00

Tobias: You were clear, I was just rushing. The main thing is you're determined to be there for your baby, even if that means foregoing work or missing out on time with our treasured WWII heroes in Bastogne. Now that's commitment...!

Don't be Kaylee, I reread my post too and you ...

2011-11-04T00:05:44.203-07:00

Don't be Kaylee, I reread my post too and you had all the right to misunderstood.
Yes so far we are not married: But we want to do it as soon as possible, because after 8 years of being a couple it is overdue. But I'm not sure if planing the wedding, inviting all the family and friends will get in line with caring about our son.

Marcus sorry for 'using' your blog :-)
T

Your wife or girlfriend or simply the baby's m...

2011-11-03T09:25:02.248-07:00

Your wife or girlfriend or simply the baby's mother...sorry again!

I knew you mentioned the word "girl" whe...

2011-11-03T09:20:35.793-07:00

I knew you mentioned the word "girl" when I read your post yesterday. Rereading it I now remember you were referring to your wife! Sorry!

did I say daughter? so far the doctor says it is g...

2011-11-03T07:23:45.594-07:00

did I say daughter?
so far the doctor says it is going to be a son ;-)

Thanks, Tobias and congrats on your impending fath...

2011-11-03T06:54:34.818-07:00

Thanks, Tobias and congrats on your impending fatherhood! You've already made excellent choices where your daughter is concerned. You're off to a great start...!

Kaylee, I'm really looking forward to make the...

2011-11-03T00:57:08.795-07:00

Kaylee, I'm really looking forward to make these experiences you had and still have. Great comment!

And thanks Marcus.

T

Thanks for you comment, Ross. I know things are lo...

2011-11-02T18:30:36.762-07:00

Thanks for you comment, Ross. I know things are looking up now for you.

Thanks for your transparency Marcus! Even though m...

2011-11-02T17:44:04.379-07:00

Thanks for your transparency Marcus! Even though my kids grew up in a divorced family, when I finally woke up I was able to make them a priority, and the damage to them was minimized.
Ross B.

Kaylee, that's a great word, thank you. Diffic...

2011-11-02T13:34:39.891-07:00

Kaylee, that's a great word, thank you. Difficult decision, sure, but I bet you'll never regret these important years at home.

I had a difficult time finding a balance. I worke...

2011-11-02T11:23:02.836-07:00

I had a difficult time finding a balance. I worked full-time before I had my daughter, worked part-time once she was born (that lasted a month because I hated daycare)and then work part-time from home for 7 years. My boss then decided he needed me back in the office and willing to travel like the pre-baby days. So, I quit. Arguably giving up the income and putting the brakes on my career, possibly permanently, was not a wise choice. But, in my heart I knew quitting was what I wanted and needed to do. The prospect of focusing on my daughter rather than having my attention torn between her and work was so appealing and felt right. I'm so fortunate that I had that option. It was definitely the right choice for me. I love the little things...seeing her face light up when she spots me in the crowd after school each day, our conversations about her day on the ride home and so much more I cherish and would likely miss if I worked. The mental energy I have for her is also so important, even more so because she has learning disabilities. The transition from investigating white collar crime alongside the FBI to baking cupcakes for the school carnival has been an interesting one. But, I have no regrets and would do it again in a heartbeat.

Yeah, a hard decision, Tobi. Congratulations on ...

2011-11-02T08:28:18.639-07:00

Yeah, a hard decision, Tobi.

Congratulations on your upcoming child!

-MB

Very very nice post Marcus! Like you already wrote...

2011-11-02T07:50:05.878-07:00

Very very nice post Marcus!
Like you already wrote it is very hard to get both things in line. At the moment I have nearly the exact same problem. I have a meeting one day before the birth of my first baby is sceduled. The difference between my meeting and yours is, that mine is way more unimportant. So my choice is very easy! Being there for my girl and baby with everything I can offer.
Next thing is what comes on nearly the same day, is the Battle of the Bulge anniversary in Bastogne. Since 2009 I'm there with my ingrowing friends community. So that event is mainly set for every year. But this year it is different. I can't be there because of the birthdate of my first baby. Although my mind and heart says that the baby is the most important thing, some part of me is very sad that it is not possible to be there. The fact that there will be just a few years left where WWII vets will be present in Bastogne, doesn't make it any better, you know. Especially when I'm going to see all these great pictures of my friends after the event took place. Here all the stories of meeting vets and all. But Then I can show even better pictures and tell better stories about becoming a father. So I will get over it!
All the best and take care
T