Comments on Men Who Lead Well: Difficult Decisions Made Easier

Thank you very much Marcus for giving the info abo...

2011-11-16T22:37:12.076-08:00

Thank you very much Marcus for giving the info about Tommy. I'm happy for him! Looks like he did the right choice after all.

Lee for me it sounds like you did the rightest choice of all!
All the best to you and your family.

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Lee, such a good word from you, thanks. It sound...

2011-11-16T15:49:07.117-08:00

Lee, such a good word from you, thanks.

It sounds like you're exactly where you need to be right now. I can only imagine there are both highs and lows to each day for you, both joys and sorrows.

But I bet your children and your family are so much richer because of your decision.

Leaving work was the responsible thing in my case ...

2011-11-16T14:54:01.554-08:00

Leaving work was the responsible thing in my case (maybe not from a social aspect but for my children it was). We live very tight but leaving work to be a stay at home dad was the right choice for my family at this time for our circumstances but i would like to return at some point. I have 2 young children with special needs that we can't just hand off to daycare and my wife can't look after both by herself. It isn't money they need, but the hands on care and time and effort with them. Fortunately i live in a country where there are Carer's payment and there is funding and services to get them the therapies and healthcare they need and although we go without a lot of extras and paying the bills is difficult on payment plans, we still live reasonably comfortable, ie: live in a house with water and electricity and can put food on the table and clearly still afford to have prepaid internet without the kids missing out on what they do need.

Very true. I hadn't thought of that applicatio...

2011-11-16T13:14:46.309-08:00

Very true. I hadn't thought of that application, but I can relate to it. Thanks.

This comes up a great deal in raising kids. The e...

2011-11-16T09:05:52.698-08:00

This comes up a great deal in raising kids. The easy way out at the moment tends not to be what's best in the long run. Whether it's not buying them something, having them spend an hour slowly cleaning up their things instead of you doing it in 5 minutes, slogging through difficult homework rather than just telling them the answer when you're both at your wits end...doing things that are more trouble and less appealing at the time end up being the most beneficial to them and you ultimately.

Rosslyn--thank you. Tobi--to answer your questio...

2011-11-16T08:09:42.275-08:00

Rosslyn--thank you.

Tobi--to answer your question about where is Tommy now. We've actually moved since then, so I've lost direct contact with him. But last I heard things were going okay for him and his young family--they were still together, they had another child, and, no, his window washing business didn't last long, before he got a full time job in a manufacturing plant, I think it was.

I actually applaud much of what this young man did, meaning he did take responsibility for his situation and he was trying to go the right direction. Sure the couple struggled financially for a few years in their early marriage, but many couples do on the road to figuring things out.

Thanks for your consistent comments. Much appreciated.

Great post, Marcus. I'm going to share this.

2011-11-16T07:23:44.675-08:00

Great post, Marcus. I'm going to share this.

The good thing is, I live in Germany and we are ca...

2011-11-16T03:38:10.873-08:00

The good thing is, I live in Germany and we are ca. 6 ours before time in the US. So I read this article when you are still sleeping ;)

How is Tommy dealing with the situation is my question. I missed that info at the end. ;-)

I think mostly all of us have these experiences when you want to have/own something you can not afford at the moment. And sometimes things are so bad, you have to sell things which you really like. I don't want to imagine if I have to sell my WWII stuff one day. That is my hobby and I want to keep all of it.
At the moment my girl and me trying to safe money for a greater good. A own home, without rent. Sure we have to take a credit for it, but time will come were the house is fully ours, and not the bank's anymore. So you buckle down for a greater good. Something to have for the future, something you can rely on. There are very few things or persons you can rely on these days.

best
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